Going back to certain incidents in my life - I never intend to bring back my thoughts about them. But today, I want to speak up. I want to dust off my mind that is sick of all those devils out there in the real world.
I am sure many of the women might have gone through the same trauma I had to go through a few times now. It can happen anywhere - be it street, office, bus, train or in any public place. Yes.. I am talking of those evil souls out there who mask themselves as cultured, decent human beings to enjoy a minute's pleasure of abusing a woman. Eve teasing and women abusement has several forms from being "Just staring to Verbal to Physical".
While travelling in a bus/train, you notice an elderly person as aged as your dad staring you for no reason? In office, you find certain men coming to you with silliest questions or dumbest doubts at odd times? In any public place, you find a mysterious hand touching the sensitive parts of your body? You are being abused.. Just because you seem to be the vulnerable, weaker race or you are a "woman".
How many stories have we heard so far? From child trafficking/raping--college girls being raped by fellow students, professors--killing followed by suicidal for the sake of love. There are also stories about helpless aged women being raped to death. Who are these psychopaths? Are they not brought up like us? Where are they coming from? Why do they do all these? They are living in the same world as we are. They are like us - but trying to dodge their real face behind a human mask. All they need is pleasure of hurting a woman. They enjoy abusing us. Each and every male in this world has a minute percentage of this kind of behavior. When it goes beyond certain level, we suffer! These animals should be killed mercilessly for what they are doing to us every day!
Some of my experiences so far -
(i) School - Geography sir who would touch me every time I go to him. Being at school, I never knew whom should be told abt this. I was afraid of my marks if I had to complain abt him. At later times, I would stand at a considerable distance if I had to consult him for anything.
(ii) High School - Biology sir who uses abusive language which class boys only understood and laughed. Hindi Sir who was called a "Jollu" (Flirty) for his kind of behavior with the girl students.
(iii) College - I have worst experiences during my college days. How some random man would stare me everyday from a same place in the bus.... you can never feel comfortable when someone stares you every day. During the bus journeys back home, I had to usually be on standing (not for mins but for hours). Every other day, I would have someone rub against me purposely in the name of getting/passing tickets, moving to get down or for merely no place to stand. I wouldn't be silent if its intolerable. But you cant be shouting at some man every day!! I am least bothered of how others in the bus thinks. I ignore these cruel creatures taking pleasure out of a girl's suffering only for the lack of energy to fight back. Women who are my fellow passengers sometimes support the man in question during the fights - "what will the poor man do.. he needs place to stand too.... " I feel disgusted of those ladies. If they were to undergo the same trauma and treatment I am getting, they wont be daring enough to repeat those words!! I have seen as worse as a man falling on me fully when I have very little energy to shout or fight or throw him apart. I started taking buses that were less crowded where I can be seated to avoid this on a regular basis.
(iv) Bus Journeys - Travelling in bus sends some weird electric signals through my spine. If you are lucky enough to get a ladies seat (limited to 2 only in long distance buses), you are safe! Consider yourself travelling in a bus filled with 35-40 men - most of them are crooked and crass minded. And that too end up sitting next to a man... Even if he is decent enough, he tries so hard to limit himself to his seat - only until he falls asleep. You will be wide awake to make sure he doesn't fall on you while sleeping (he is not bothered at all, he has no senses after falling asleep). Once I had a seat next to a guy, he was good enough maintaining himself even during his sleep. At the dark of the night, I could feel a pinch on my hand (Thank God I had my hands folded tightly against my chest). For a moment it felt like dream. But repeated pinches woke me up. I could see a hand coming through the tiny gap between the window and my seat. I didn't want to turn back to see the human (animal) bearing that hand! All I wanted to do is crush the hand, if it comes to touch me next time. There was suddenly helplessness, I was feeling weak, I was feeling abused but I wanted to kill that dark animal!! I stayed awake for the rest of the night... What is that sheer happiness to him in doing this to me?? I DONT KNOW..........
(v) Train Journeys - Bangalore to Chennai - I was sleeping in middle berth (no. 5 which is close to the entrance with 3 tube lights always switched on). I woke up suddenly with a mysterious touch. At first it seemed to be my imagination. What did I see when I opened my eyes? A hand hanging from the upper berth!!! On that particular day, All the 7 berths around mine had male passengers and everyone was sleeping tight (it was 1.23AM when I woke up). I was lacking the emotion and expression on my face. It was hard to believe or to speak. With all those lights and railway police force being on board, there was still some animal trying its best to abuse me.... I slightly came out to see if the hand was unintentional by any chance.. (though the hand targeted my chest.......) I could see - part of a red eye focused on my body... yes.. I was seeing a real animal in human form. yes.. he is a cruel animal. He remained focused on my chest though I kept shouting at him. I asked - "what do you want?.. Why is your hand here?.. what? what?.. " all to be answered by his staring at me. To my surprise, one of the fellow passengers got up to see what was the issue, but remained unbounded to interfere.. I pushed that hand aside with full force... within 5 mins the animal got down at next station after seeing RPF. I remained awake the rest of the night..... with unanswerable questions in my mind...
(vi) Office - This man comes to me for the most dumbest things at office.. staring at my neck line, lips and all other parts except the eyes. I have directly/indirectly insulted him so that he would go off. But he keeps coming back like the animal which has no sense of self - respect and ego. He waits in pantry, office shuttle and where not, to catch a talk with me. Whats the intention? He is almost my uncle's age... married with 2 kids. We are not friends. We dont have mutual interests or work for similar projects. Then why?
This is not the end of long list. These animals are with us.. in this same world.. talk with us, live with us, travel with us, work with us... Can this be stopped?? Talking out or Fighting up helps?? The individual concerned must change.. for the sake of his Grandmother, Mother, Sister, Wife, Daughter and all the other women in his life. Until then this circle keeps repeating...........
I am sure many of the women might have gone through the same trauma I had to go through a few times now. It can happen anywhere - be it street, office, bus, train or in any public place. Yes.. I am talking of those evil souls out there who mask themselves as cultured, decent human beings to enjoy a minute's pleasure of abusing a woman. Eve teasing and women abusement has several forms from being "Just staring to Verbal to Physical".
While travelling in a bus/train, you notice an elderly person as aged as your dad staring you for no reason? In office, you find certain men coming to you with silliest questions or dumbest doubts at odd times? In any public place, you find a mysterious hand touching the sensitive parts of your body? You are being abused.. Just because you seem to be the vulnerable, weaker race or you are a "woman".
How many stories have we heard so far? From child trafficking/raping--college girls being raped by fellow students, professors--killing followed by suicidal for the sake of love. There are also stories about helpless aged women being raped to death. Who are these psychopaths? Are they not brought up like us? Where are they coming from? Why do they do all these? They are living in the same world as we are. They are like us - but trying to dodge their real face behind a human mask. All they need is pleasure of hurting a woman. They enjoy abusing us. Each and every male in this world has a minute percentage of this kind of behavior. When it goes beyond certain level, we suffer! These animals should be killed mercilessly for what they are doing to us every day!
Some of my experiences so far -
(i) School - Geography sir who would touch me every time I go to him. Being at school, I never knew whom should be told abt this. I was afraid of my marks if I had to complain abt him. At later times, I would stand at a considerable distance if I had to consult him for anything.
(ii) High School - Biology sir who uses abusive language which class boys only understood and laughed. Hindi Sir who was called a "Jollu" (Flirty) for his kind of behavior with the girl students.
(iii) College - I have worst experiences during my college days. How some random man would stare me everyday from a same place in the bus.... you can never feel comfortable when someone stares you every day. During the bus journeys back home, I had to usually be on standing (not for mins but for hours). Every other day, I would have someone rub against me purposely in the name of getting/passing tickets, moving to get down or for merely no place to stand. I wouldn't be silent if its intolerable. But you cant be shouting at some man every day!! I am least bothered of how others in the bus thinks. I ignore these cruel creatures taking pleasure out of a girl's suffering only for the lack of energy to fight back. Women who are my fellow passengers sometimes support the man in question during the fights - "what will the poor man do.. he needs place to stand too.... " I feel disgusted of those ladies. If they were to undergo the same trauma and treatment I am getting, they wont be daring enough to repeat those words!! I have seen as worse as a man falling on me fully when I have very little energy to shout or fight or throw him apart. I started taking buses that were less crowded where I can be seated to avoid this on a regular basis.
(iv) Bus Journeys - Travelling in bus sends some weird electric signals through my spine. If you are lucky enough to get a ladies seat (limited to 2 only in long distance buses), you are safe! Consider yourself travelling in a bus filled with 35-40 men - most of them are crooked and crass minded. And that too end up sitting next to a man... Even if he is decent enough, he tries so hard to limit himself to his seat - only until he falls asleep. You will be wide awake to make sure he doesn't fall on you while sleeping (he is not bothered at all, he has no senses after falling asleep). Once I had a seat next to a guy, he was good enough maintaining himself even during his sleep. At the dark of the night, I could feel a pinch on my hand (Thank God I had my hands folded tightly against my chest). For a moment it felt like dream. But repeated pinches woke me up. I could see a hand coming through the tiny gap between the window and my seat. I didn't want to turn back to see the human (animal) bearing that hand! All I wanted to do is crush the hand, if it comes to touch me next time. There was suddenly helplessness, I was feeling weak, I was feeling abused but I wanted to kill that dark animal!! I stayed awake for the rest of the night... What is that sheer happiness to him in doing this to me?? I DONT KNOW..........
(v) Train Journeys - Bangalore to Chennai - I was sleeping in middle berth (no. 5 which is close to the entrance with 3 tube lights always switched on). I woke up suddenly with a mysterious touch. At first it seemed to be my imagination. What did I see when I opened my eyes? A hand hanging from the upper berth!!! On that particular day, All the 7 berths around mine had male passengers and everyone was sleeping tight (it was 1.23AM when I woke up). I was lacking the emotion and expression on my face. It was hard to believe or to speak. With all those lights and railway police force being on board, there was still some animal trying its best to abuse me.... I slightly came out to see if the hand was unintentional by any chance.. (though the hand targeted my chest.......) I could see - part of a red eye focused on my body... yes.. I was seeing a real animal in human form. yes.. he is a cruel animal. He remained focused on my chest though I kept shouting at him. I asked - "what do you want?.. Why is your hand here?.. what? what?.. " all to be answered by his staring at me. To my surprise, one of the fellow passengers got up to see what was the issue, but remained unbounded to interfere.. I pushed that hand aside with full force... within 5 mins the animal got down at next station after seeing RPF. I remained awake the rest of the night..... with unanswerable questions in my mind...
(vi) Office - This man comes to me for the most dumbest things at office.. staring at my neck line, lips and all other parts except the eyes. I have directly/indirectly insulted him so that he would go off. But he keeps coming back like the animal which has no sense of self - respect and ego. He waits in pantry, office shuttle and where not, to catch a talk with me. Whats the intention? He is almost my uncle's age... married with 2 kids. We are not friends. We dont have mutual interests or work for similar projects. Then why?
This is not the end of long list. These animals are with us.. in this same world.. talk with us, live with us, travel with us, work with us... Can this be stopped?? Talking out or Fighting up helps?? The individual concerned must change.. for the sake of his Grandmother, Mother, Sister, Wife, Daughter and all the other women in his life. Until then this circle keeps repeating...........
True Suffering brought about in its real colour
ReplyDeleteThanks for voicing the untold painful truth! Men please learn see her loving heart which is fundamental for your existence, not her body. Respect her aspirations. She is symbol of love, not sex.
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